I’ve had some unexpected down time lately.
I can’t say I’m enjoying it, however it’s been a bit of an awakening. What I’m taking from this space is the need to trust in myself : to trust I can survive on my own with my skill and my talents. To trust I can make the hard decisions that I may face and make the choices I need to better my life and in turn the life of those around me.
To take further financial responsibility, to study up : to arm myself with the knowledge I need to better understand the world in which I live and how to create the very brightest future for my tribe.
To fill my own potholes there.
It’s a hard look. It takes dropping my ego and getting really clear that there is always work : no matter where you are on your path. It’s meant softening into tough stuff: taking space to do for me so others can do for themselves and vice versa. Funny how God works in those ways.
For me the open is creating a tiny independence – which in the end is a muscle I really can use to exercise. To be frank: coming from a firmly committed marriage, I never felt the need to be the sole decision maker, the primary bread winner or the “head of household” as I am referred to on the FAFSA from. I am the mama. I am happy with my role. I recognize the tremendous responsibility that comes with that job and I am proud to do it well. I never wanted to do BOTH jobs however. THAT was not in the brochure. (God laughs)
I have leaned into that fear in this space. It’s been a particularly cathartic time. I’ve kicked and screamed and fought it as if my life were depending on it. Because I truly felt it was. I am not cut out for “independent” I believed. Independent sounds so very alone.
What I can say is this : each day I take ownership and work toward getting flat on “I can’t do it” is a small victory. Each step I take toward being in my truth is a blessing. Each breath I clear the fog and look toward a blue sky day (with each breath I heal)
This space which has allowed me time to “do more”, has actually been a time of “do less”. A time to fill my own potholes, to play catch up, to nurture my spirit and to get organized with what is next – looking ahead to Sophia’s graduation and a much quieter home next fall.
This space has allowed me and connect with people and places that recognize my dreams without judgement, that admire my courage and that nurture the freedom to choose the life we desire : unabashed and unwavering. For that I am especially grateful.
Where can you lean in to your fear and arm yourself with what it takes to shift that energy? Where can you dig in and get working on something you’ve been wholeheartedly avoiding? Where can you create the space to get to the one thing holding you back from living the life you were meant to live?
Thank you for the morning reminder @wandafullyoga I lean on your strength and courage from afar more than you might imagine.