on set lists

june 2012 itrIt still happens every time. Layer after layer I go through his things – It’s not a job that I dread, it just takes commitment and care, and often a lot of thought as to who to give things to, so  – chunks of time. Crazy, 21 months later and I’m still going through things.

Today it was the little shelf under my side table. Possibly the most constant piece in my bedroom, other than my bed. The place where magic happens apparently, but a story for another time – the side table story that is.

Always a stack of books, favorites or to be read, some have tattered, from a drop or two in the bathtub. Dogeared, filled with post-it’s paperclips and things of sorts. Photos, of memories past, placed for safe keeping while traveling away from home as a daily reminder of my people. Today I found three separate catalog pages, in three separate books, all featuring the same beach towels I’ve had my eye on for years. I like what I like.

And a set-list.

Most times I know what show they were from, who we were were with, what we were celebrating – we were always celebrating. They represent so much, a little slice of time, not unlike the photographs. They hold memories recalled in my body, thats the magic in the music, its a full body experience for most.

I’ve always been a sucker for a set-list.

It’s something about being a part of that quiet frenetic energy leading up to a show, writing the night out.  The moments before. It’s a privilege to me. I’ve always felt that. In the case of In The Red, I only knew the latter days, where rehearsals would be non-existent although intended, and set-lists would be compiled over days of emails and text messages – often with cheats and notes included – the fellas are all getting old. I recently went through some messages on Dean’s phone, and the majority of emails saved were exactly that. Mindfulness in creating an experience – making sure it was as big and as much fun as we could possibly fit in the room.

(It’s a quality I admire in people and believe to hold in myself: creating a vibe, ambiance, taking care of everyone and everything, with joy from love. little things, energy, details)

What a way to live.

Looking so forward to this week’s adventure in New Orleans, filled with sweet sounds, get downs, great friends and good vibes.  There’s a piece of my soul that is only fed with the music of that city. The horns, the heat and the slow steady vibration that you can feel in the streets, the undercurrent. Tradition, history, culture and new experiences. Something about that Crescent City that will hold my heart forever. The intention and energy behind the music, the easy attitude of the people, the smiles of the faces I see but once a year, front row, loving it all as big and full as I do, like we’ve been waiting for this week all year – because we have. Right there at the edge of the stage where if you tilt you head the right way, you might just catch a peek of that setlist taped to the floor by the mic.

We’ll be missing some of our regulars, for sure, but will carry on for you, and you newbies, we just can’t wait to bring you into our world! There is just no place like New Orleans, get ready to live a little piece of your heart down south. Laissez les bons temps rouler!

Thank God we have Jazz Fest…

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(mid Dave Matthews set 1st Weekend. EPIC)

started this post last week –

Its been a crazy freakin’ upside side down and right side up again kind of week here in 08033. Superman is currently rocking out to Anders Obsborne in the other room, windows open, sun shining on him. Perfect Thursday evening -in preparation for the Lettuce show at The Blockley – he told the doctor the other day “music is my medicine” Making memories and laughing with your friends is what we ALL live for! He’s so right.

Music has been so much for us through our relationship – totally our common bond. It’s been so great to get out and about with our gang. “Thank God we have Jazz Fest.” and the days preceding and following it. The days we count down the days, and the days we recap it. Luck us, getting to Jazz Fest this year, lucky us! Sometimes you just need a care free soul filling weekend away in the sun, or in our case the driving pouring rain- to put it all in to perspective and remind you- life isn’t about passing the storm, it’s about dancing in the rain. Nothing better than gettin’ down with your friends!

Good thing too, because just after the most fun week ever – came the least fun week ever. (although I hear the Hurley’s pool party was pretty awesome!) Here you have it.

five radiation treatments

1 3 hour chemo sit

1 clinic visit with his radiologist

1 appointment with Dr/. Langer

1 emergency room visit

1 night stay in the hospital

1.7 liters of fluid drained from his right lung (and again 1.5 more)

1 chest xray

2 MRI’s

to fill you in:

with all this tests, we’ve found more cancer, in more places, but when Dr Langer is involved, there’s a plan. Superman’s in a pretty bad rough patch, there’s not been such good news this week, and he’s feeling really crappy. God willing, it’s going back uphill soon. We’ll be hanging on the porch this week, listening to music pretending we’re in New Orleans – if you’re in town, stop over! It’s a GAME ON! kind of week.

love and light,

xxN